17 Sep 2025 5 min read

Where Do We Go From Here?

Choosing Unity in a Time of Division.

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The Fork In The Road

It happens in every single relationship, the fork in the road. The point where circumstances change, disagreements arise, and dreams and goals no longer align, leaving two parties with a decision.

Left or right?

Stay together or split?

Wait for an answer or turn around and go back?

Either way, there's a call to consider or reconsider a higher purpose, goal, or vision that brought them together. Then comes the question of whether it's enough to keep them together.

Where Do We Go From Here?

That's the question every disagreement leaves us with. I've asked it myself in the wake of painful fellowship lost, when convictions clashed and friendship broke under the strain. And we're asking it now as a nation, grieving and reeling in the aftermath of violence, wondering if our divisions will destroy us.

I woke up last Thursday morning with my heart heavy. Family struggles, fractured friendships, personal battles, and the weight of our national crisis all pressed in. Then the video of Charlie Kirk's assassination flashed in my mind.

Something inside me broke. I could not stop crying.

Identity Anchors

I've seen Christians and Americans online and in the media disagree and argue about Charlie Kirk's death.

"Well, if he were really a Christian, he wouldn't have said this, or if he were really an American, he wouldn't have done that."

The truth is that Charlie Kirk was both. He was a Christian and an American. Those were his set identities.

Do we really have the right to disqualify him from either of those because we may disagree with him?

The answer is no.

A Christian believes in and follows Jesus Christ, trusting in His finished work on the cross. An American belongs to this nation, bound by its laws and ideals.

Both of those identities should serve as anchors in relationships. And for believers, the identity in Christ should be the non-negotiable foundation.

The Way Of Agape

There's a Greek word for this, Agape. You may have heard of it.

Agape by nature is a willful love.

It chooses to act in selflessness for the other person. It decides to seek the good of the other.

That's what makes Agape so radical. It doesn't deny truth, but it refuses to abandon fellowship where Christ has called us to unity. It doesn't erase convictions, but it demands that we place the higher purpose above our pride.

However, the outcome ultimately depends on one person's decision to act in love and the other person's decision to receive it.

Both parties have to lay down pride for that to happen. Without that, there is no fellowship, camaraderie, partnership, or cooperation.

If forgiveness is needed, then bring it. If compromise is necessary, then bring it.

Bring it like a gift. Like a peace offering and a call to a higher purpose. Either way, both parties have a responsibility in giving and receiving.

This isn't going to happen with everyone. And that's ok.

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Paul and Barnabas

An example of this in the bible is Paul and Barnabas in Acts 15. These were men who had traveled together, preached the gospel side by side, and seen God move in powerful ways. Yet when it came time for their next journey, they had such a sharp disagreement over John Mark that they parted ways.

But notice something: the mission didn't die there. Paul went one direction, Barnabas another, and the gospel kept spreading. Later, Paul even spoke warmly of John Mark, showing that the fracture wasn't permanent. What looked like failure at the time became part of God's plan to multiply the work.

Choosing Which Way To Go

Where do we go from here? We go where Agape leads. We walk the road of selfless, willful love, the kind that refuses to let pride write the last word. For believers, that means holding fast to Christ as our higher purpose, loving one another even when disagreements cut deep.

For Americans, it means remembering that our shared citizenship is not fragile; it is rooted in principles that can still bind us together if we choose to honor them.

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Even in the bloodiest chapter of our history, Abraham Lincoln called the nation to a higher love: 'with malice toward none, with charity for all'.

The fork in the road will come in friendships, in churches, in our nation. The choice will always be before us: walk away in bitterness, or walk forward in love. We may not always keep every relationship, but we can keep faith with the higher purpose that called us together in the first place.

Where do we go from here? That's something each of us must decide. But if we choose the road of Agape, then no matter how deep the fracture, we will know which way to walk.

How do you personally balance truth and fellowship when you disagree with someone close to you?

Let me know in the comments section or reply to this email. I’d love to hear from you!

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